As a photographer I get to do a lot of really cool things, things that I would normally never get to experience. I’ve flown an airplane, experienced zero gravity, sailed the Chesapeake, photographed two presidents, and even hung out a helicopter door to get aerial photos of downtown Annapolis. Recently I got to have an experience that touched me in a way I never could have imagined. I had the opportunity to photograph a birth.
I met with the soon-to-be parents Yary and Steve at Special Beginnings Birthing Center in Arnold, Maryland just two weeks before her due date. I felt so comfortable with them from the moment I met them. They were both such open and warm people that my excitement for this shoot doubled right then and there. After the meeting, I was walking home (I only live 2 blocks from the birthing center) and I couldn’t stop smiling as I thought about how wonderful it was going to be to be a part of this momentous time of their lives and document something that I have never experienced before. It was then that it hit me, “Oh my god, just because she is due on Thursday doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen on Thursday!” This is something that I am not familiar with…I am used to an assignment or job having a set time and date, I show up, the event happens and I go home. Not the case….I was on call.
As the due date approached, I became slightly obsessed with having my phone with me and charged every second of the day. I realized what a big deal this was and I didn’t want to miss it for the world. I talked about it all the time, all my friends kept asking, “Has the baby been born yet?”. It became my focus and I couldn’t wait until the big day. If this is how I felt, I can’t imagine how Yary and Steve felt.
Well, the due date passed and I waited and then I heard from Steve on Sunday that Yary had been having contractions since Saturday and that this was going to happen either Sunday night or Monday morning. So now, I was officially on alert. At midnight on Sunday I forced myself to go to bed, so that I could get as much sleep as possible before the baby came. Monday morning at 8am, the phone rang, I jumped up and was immediately awake as I answered the phone I heard Steve say, “It’s time. We are leaving now and should be there around 9. I awoke to find her pushing in the bathtub so hopefully we will make it to the birthing center in time”.
I arrived at the birthing center at 8:45 and met with the midwife who was so kind to brief me on what was going to happen once they arrived. Right on schedule, Steve and Yary arrived. After a quick examination of the mom-to-be, they reported that she was fully dilated and moved her into the bathroom where she was going to give birth in the large tub.
Everything moved so smoothly, Yary was so strong during the entire birth, as was the rest of the “birthing team”. I was in awe the entire time. I’ve noticed that when I photograph something in which I might get emotional, I tend to turn off that part of my brain and just focus on documenting whatever is happening. I did this during the birth and not until I got home and edited the photos did I really understand what I had just witnessed. I actually was brought to tears when I went through the photos and saw the one of Yary’s expression when she first saw baby Jonathan Miguel. It was a very moving moment for me…
After the birth, they moved Yary into her bedroom where Jonathan was weighed and measured and wrapped into a little blanket and placed back into his mother’s arms. The connection that happened between the two of them blew me away. His eyes never left hers as he held his little hand up to touch her face. The bond was instant. This really brought it home for me. Seeing the whole process and then seeing this bond really made me think for a moment about who we are…as adults we tend to forget about how precious our lives are and take for granted how amazing and strong mothers are.
I could go on and on and on about this experience, but since this is a blog and I know I should keep this short, I am going to stop now and just let the photos tell you the rest.
Thank you Yary and Steve for including me in this awesome time of your lives and for trusting me to document the arrival of little Jonathan Miguel. I will never forget this experience!
I also want to thank the wonderful staff at Special Beginnings in Arnold, MD. They were so welcoming to me and were so attentive during the birth. What an great place for women to be in a comfortable environment.
I now look at all mothers in a new way, I am amazed by how strong you are. Thank you mom for going through all that to have me…this Mother’s Day you will definitely be getting a little more attention than usual. I love you.